Because society would rather we always wore a pretty face, women have been trained to cut off anger.
Anger is an emotion. Not a bad one, nor a good one; it simply exists when particular conditions in our lives are not met as we’d hoped.
We can get free of our anger if we choose to take action appropriate to it. Anger can be a healthy prompter of action. But when no action is taken, anger turns inward, negatively influencing our perceptions of all experiences, all human interaction.
We need to befriend all of our emotions. We need to trust that they all can serve us when we befriend them, learn from them, act in healthy concert with them. Our emotions reveal the many faces of our soul. And all are valid, deserving respect and acceptance. They are all representative of the inner self.
Because we are less at home with anger, it becomes more powerful. When we deny it, it doesn’t disappear. It surfaces in unrelated circumstances, complicating our lives in unnecessary ways. We can learn to enjoy our anger by celebrating the positive action it prompts. We can cherish the growth that accompanies it, when we take the steps we need to.
It’s okay for me to be angry today. It’s growthful, if I use it for good.
Quoted from the book Each Day a New Beginning.
If I had one thing to share about what I’ve learned about emotions over the is that it can be a great source for letting us know what direction we should be going or if we are on track. When we come to believe and accept that we can use our emotions instead of letting them use us.
Our emotions, in particular the uncomfortable ones, are good prompters to stop and think. Any time, any time at all, that we choose to stop and find what it is we can be grateful for in a situation, the situation will improve. It does not improve because it changes but because our estimation of it changes. It is also virtually impossible to be grateful and feel something negative at the same time.
There was a shirt that I saw once that read, “Don’t fix my anger, it’s not broken!” And truly I can appreciate that more today than ever I could before. Without anger we would be missing a catalyst for change…when things are good, there is no impetus to change anything nor should there be. At moments, hours, days or weeks like that we should be grateful. Anger has it’s proper place. Perhaps it is to tell us we are trying to control something we can’t. There are any number of things anger can be telling us. We might feel anger when truly what we are is disappointed, most often in a person or an event that didn’t go as planned.
Making emotions our friends is something I call Driving By Braille. Emotions are one of our greatest most dependable allies in guiding us down the path that is our life. Today I will stop and think if there is an emotion that is telling me I’m going in a direction off my path. Today I will use my emotions, not let my emotions use me. ~Adrienne