Insights – Daily Readings – November 23, 2014


Love, perfect love is not something that is given or received. It is a state of being that we live in. It is gratitude, it is peace, it is serenity, it is acceptance. Unconditional love is what we all seek. The ironic thing is that when we reach this state of loving or at the lowest level of unconditional love being grateful for all the people in our lives we come across another challenge.

The challenge is keeping our nose on our own face, the error is that many people truly tend not to understand this way of loving. I do love people. I am grateful even for those that cause frustration or those who because of the affects of addiction behave badly. I am grateful for them, because they are all my teachers.

Today, I can think of two or three times that I reacted poorly instead of responding wisely. That was not giving love and so it caused stress in my being. Working the steps daily – taking that inventory daily – keeps me on track and narrows the gap between who I am in my being and the affects of ego that distort thinking.

Sometimes it’s HALT. Today that definitely played a part.

Fear is not love. Where fear exists there can not be unconditional love. It is always dependent on something. We can give unconditional love to all people. We can do this because it becomes our state of being. But when we sense fear, become aware that it is creeping in because of how the ego plays on the division in our brain, we can’t truly be love or give love unconditionally.

As I watch families struggle with loved ones’ addictions I often hear people say they love unconditionally. Unconditional love happens in every moment, from moment to moment. Where fear has lived for so long, healing is required. Fear is lack of love. And that is where the Steps help to begin to clear our mind. The rest we learn as we work and give back.

The greatest healing occurs in the presence of love. Working the 12 steps we come into the experience of a loving caring Higher Power greater than ourselves. When we begin to understand this and be of service we are giving that love as long as we continue to work the program and don’t allow division or separation of the distorted thinking to separate us from love.


About Adrienne

I am Canadian born, for those of you needing clarification. I was raised in Minnesota, The Land of 10,000 Lakes, Multiple Musical Geniuses, Lake Wobegon, and really, really cold winters. Writing, Music and Photography are my passions. My current companion is my camera though my guitars and the piano are always close by and often consulted. Inspiration is everywhere and so is beauty. I now reside in Owen Sound, Ontario, Canada. I love to write, ponder and give back what I have learned in my journey with the hope that it will benefit others.


  1. I’m trying to understand what you said in the paragraph about families of addicts. I do love my son unconditionally, but I also live in fear because of his addiction. I want the 12 Steps to change my life but I am so stuck on Step 2 I can’t seem to get beyond it. I love reading here, Its always helpful to me. Thanks.

    • When we are in fear we operate from fear not from love. Fear leads us to think WE need or can control… The posting that I did from the spirituality site that I do might clarify you many blessings and Gods love to you

  2. Amy

    @Barbara – Mother of an addict is a very challenging journey. I know from experience. I have found some comfort in the phrase – Detach with love. That way I can love my boy and also detach from the behavior, disappointment, anger, etc… Also focusing on myself and watching out for my own enabling behavior is a constant job, and building my own self esteem which has been tainted by the icky place of fear and shame. Keep coming back also means for me, keep coming back to myself. May love surround you.

  3. Amy please repost your comment it won’t let me approve and it’s so good ūüôā

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