Love, perfect love is not something that is given or received. It is a state of being that we live in. It is gratitude, it is peace, it is serenity, it is acceptance. Unconditional love is what we all seek. The ironic thing is that when we reach this state of loving or at the lowest level of unconditional love being grateful for all the people in our lives we come across another challenge.
The challenge is keeping our nose on our own face, the error is that many people truly tend not to understand this way of loving. I do love people. I am grateful even for those that cause frustration or those who because of the affects of addiction behave badly. I am grateful for them, because they are all my teachers.
Today, I can think of two or three times that I reacted poorly instead of responding wisely. That was not giving love and so it caused stress in my being. Working the steps daily – taking that inventory daily – keeps me on track and narrows the gap between who I am in my being and the affects of ego that distort thinking.
Sometimes it’s HALT. Today that definitely played a part.
Fear is not love. Where fear exists there can not be unconditional love. It is always dependent on something. We can give unconditional love to all people. We can do this because it becomes our state of being. But when we sense fear, become aware that it is creeping in because of how the ego plays on the division in our brain, we can’t truly be love or give love unconditionally.
As I watch families struggle with loved ones’ addictions I often hear people say they love unconditionally. Unconditional love happens in every moment, from moment to moment. Where fear has lived for so long, healing is required. Fear is lack of love. And that is where the Steps help to begin to clear our mind. The rest we learn as we work and give back.
The greatest healing occurs in the presence of love. Working the 12 steps we come into the experience of a loving caring Higher Power greater than ourselves. When we begin to understand this and be of service we are giving that love as long as we continue to work the program and don’t allow division or separation of the distorted thinking to separate us from love.