Perception… Reality???


There is a saying in the 12 step world that a persons perception is their reality. This is true and we can not change another persons perception but we can heal our own. And this is why the program is called a selfish program.

Addiction is a disease of ego and physical dependence psychologically speaking. Spiritually it is a disease of separation.

Perception is a funny thing. Perception is not truth, it is not reality. It is a view of reality we have made. For our perception to reflect reality it must be aligned with truth. Truth can only be clearly seen when we undo ego.

Take for example the photo above. What is it? The true reality is that it is wood, held together with nails. The perception comes from our perception of what ‘I’ USE it for.

In the real world of people, emotions and healing, our perception is the basis on which we interact with others. When we turn our lives over to the love and care of our Higher Power, and align our will with His, our perception changes because our ego begins to undo. Make no mistake, this is not easy and yet it is simple.

And so this undoing of ego or perceived “ME” or “I” is healing. It allows us to see who we are and perceive through ourselves not some convoluted distorted reflection of past associations and events.

ACIM Insights on Spirituality Think About It is helpful in working through the 12 Steps of AA and Al-Anon. Why you may ask? Because the entire Course has to do with Forgiveness, forgiveness with and through our Higher Power.

May you see the day and those around you with and through the eyes of your loving caring Higher Power, though it is written as a blessing, it is inevitable. We all do see the rest of the world through the eyes of our Higher Power. Think about it.


About Adrienne

I am Canadian born, for those of you needing clarification. I was raised in Minnesota, The Land of 10,000 Lakes, Multiple Musical Geniuses, Lake Wobegon, and really, really cold winters. Writing, Music and Photography are my passions. My current companion is my camera though my guitars and the piano are always close by and often consulted. Inspiration is everywhere and so is beauty. I now reside in Owen Sound, Ontario, Canada. I love to write, ponder and give back what I have learned in my journey with the hope that it will benefit others.


  1. I THINK we over think the 12 steps, there is no exact way, when you have TRULY released Ego, you just know. Forever changed. Ego & Addiction, conflicting paired as most Addicts, Alcoholics really don’t have any sense of worth, ego? I don’t know, KEEP IT REALLY simple. 4th step workshops, all these RULES are old, outdated & can actually be a mind ____. we are all so unique, to each their own, we can’t clump a group together. Surrender is a better word for me. KIS! You know once a person stops yelling their own beliefs that the person GETS it fully. Control is not real, an illusion & SO freeing when a person finally gives it up. God, angels, higher powers have this. Peace to you.

  2. Ego, is not self esteem. Undoing of the ego, leads to self esteem. The following is from the book A Return to Love by Marianne Williamson on the ego from:

    Chapter 3. Ego

    · Very few of us were taught that we’re essentially good. Very few of us were given sense of unconditional approval, a feeling that we’re precious because of what we are, not what we do.

    · We were raised by people who were raised the same way we were.

    · What we lost was a sense of our own power. And what we learned was fear, fear that we weren’t good enough, just the way we are.

    · In Course terminology, our entire network of fearful perceptions, all stemming from that first false belief in our separation from God and one another, is called the ego.

    · Thought separated from love is a profound miscreation. It’s our own power turned against ourselves. The moment the mind first deviated from love….an entire illusionary world came into being.

    · …it proceeds to counsel us to look out for ourselves, at the expense of others. It teaches us selfness, greed, judgment, and small mindedness. But remember, there’s only one of us here: What we give to others, we give to ourselves.

  3. Michelle

    When I finally had the courage to stop the madness, that was the book that really gave me a boost in the right direction. It’s been about 20 years since I read it and the journey has been long and slow and hard and beautifully abundant. What I know now is that it will be worth it and I am loved no matter what.

    “For you love all things that are
    and loathe nothing that you have made;
    for you would not fashion what you hate.” Wisdom 11:24

    • Thank you and many blessings to you in love 🙂 i have heard that going through it at a later date continues to deepen the enlightenment 🙂 would love it if you would share where He wills :)))

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